Couples have planners, magazines, and mothers-in-law at their disposal, guiding them toward the perfect wedding. But for our winter issue of New York Weddings, we want hear from those of you who’ve been in the wedding trenches: the guests. Whether you’re a veteran attendee of one ceremony or ten, we want to know what worked, what failed, and what was hilarious. Are there songs every D.J. should play (or songs that drive you screaming from the dance floor)? Dinners you’re still dreaming about? Any ideas you plan to blatantly rip off for your own Big Day? Share it all in the poll below. We’ll crunch the numbers, cull the best stories, and turn it into an anonymous stats page for the next issue of New York Weddings.