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New York Magazine’s Sex Lives: How Your ‘Sex Diaries’ Sausage Gets Made

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Every week, New York Magazine’s Sex Diaries series asks anonymous city dwellers to record a week of their sex lives — and sex essayist and TV writer Alyssa Shelasky reads the entries, selects the best, and prepares them for prime time. On this week’s Sex Lives podcast, Alyssa explains the process and what it’s taught her about love … and also provides a critical update on her own lightning-rod essay, “I Love Men, But I’m Thinking About Having a Baby on My Own.” Spoilers: The baby is 8 months old; Alyssa’s still single; her love life is better than ever; she’s producing two TV shows about her own life; and choosing an anonymous sperm donor can be a surprisingly romantic process.

How Your ‘Sex Diaries’ Sausage Gets Made