Ariana Grande would like everyone to stop talking about her body, thank you very much. The singer posted a three-minute video to her TikTok, shutting down recent commentary about her looking “too skinny” in photos.
“The body that you’ve been comparing my current body to was the unhealthiest version of my body,” she said. “I was on a lot of antidepressants and drinking on them and eating poorly and at the lowest point of my life when I looked the way you consider my healthy, but that in fact wasn’t my healthy.”
As a person whose body is “paid such close attention to,” she urged fans not to comment on other peoples’ appearances, reminding them that there are ways to compliment people that have nothing to do with how they look and that “healthy” looks different on different people.
“We should be gentler and less comfortable commenting on people’s bodies no matter what,” she said. “If you think you’re saying something good or well intentioned — whatever it is: healthy, unhealthy, big, small, this, that, sexy, not sexy — we just shouldn’t.”
Grande’s video is just the latest example of a famous woman pushing back on rampant commentary about her body. “You never know what someone is going through, so even if you are coming from a loving place and a caring place, that person probably is working on it or has a support system that they are working on it with, and you never know, so be gentle with each other and with yourselves,” Grande said.
Bella Hadid — who has spoken about struggling with body dysmorphia and anorexia as a teenager — showed her support for Grande by sharing the video on Instagram with a lengthy caption. She suggested that, instead of giving “unsolicited advice or opinions, judgement or aggression,” people should “try to offer a helping hand and be kind. There is always a reason for the way people look/feel, so try to be soft, especially when you don’t know someone or what they’ve been through.”
This post has been updated.