As kids, we reserved the “cool mom” label for moms who let us dye our hair or watch grown-up movies. As adults, we know better. Cool moms are the women we admire for their strength, fearlessness, and confidence. No one knows that better than Lizzy Mathis. As the founder and host of The Cool Mom Code Podcast, Mathis has made it her job to find the inspirational women out there we could all learn a thing or two from. But perhaps the person we could be learning from the most is Mathis, the ultimate cool mom herself.
“When I had my first child, I loved being a mom but I lost a little piece of me,” she shares. “I pushed many of my passions to the side and forgot to invest in myself.” Now, as a mother of three, she’s created her own definition of what a cool mom is. “Being a cool mom means celebrating the intersection of womanhood and motherhood. I want to remind women that we can be phenomenal, loving mothers while also being phenomenal, multi-faceted women.”
These days, Mathis is what she likes to call a mompreneur (in addition to hosting her podcast, she also dishes out advice on her site, The Cool Mom Co., and hosts a home renovation show with Jessica Alba). Between juggling her family and her businesses, how she manages to get it all done — and make it look easy and stylish — is a superpower. Since we can’t exactly bottle it up to employ in our own lives, her pearls of wisdom are the next best thing.
Mathis will be the first to tell you that her confidence was hard won. “I feel like this season of my life is all about the layers of being a woman,” she shares. “Womanhood is the culmination of all the experiences, emotions, failures, and successes I’ve accumulated. I know my confidence was earned, my ambition was built, my strength was learned, and my self-love was nurtured to get to this point in my life. I’ve never felt more confident in my skin than at this very moment.”
If coming into her confidence was the hard part, celebrating it now is easy. One of her favorite ways to uplift herself is by wearing feel-good pieces from Spanx. With elevated pieces she can mix and match and layer throughout her busy days, it’s her go-to brand for putting her best self forth. “I need clothes to be multi-purpose, stylish, and functional as I go about my day. Spanx gets it right with these cute blazers, bodysuits, and denim that can take me from drop-off to office to dinner date.”
Of course, Mathis never forgets that true confidence comes from within. “Reminders and affirmations are a beautiful thing,” she advises. “Write it down, say it in the mirror, sing it out loud, surround yourself with others who champion you. Treat yourself like you would treat your younger self. Always know that a young girl somewhere in the world is rooting for you to succeed so she can see herself in you.”
With her podcast, Mathis gets an intimate peek into the lives of other women and what motherhood looks like for them. “If I’ve learned anything from interviewing all the mamas on The Cool Mom Code podcast, it’s that everyone’s journey is so individual to who they are and each one is beautiful in its own way. I seek out women in all walks of life that we can admire for their successes but also learn from their truths.” With so many different perspectives, her hope is that women realize there’s no one right answer or way of doing things. “Yes, it’s messy and yes, it’s amazing and yes, we need to prioritize ourselves more and yes, you will lose relationships and yes, you will gain other ones and yes, it’s okay to say no. All of it makes sense and all of it is an important part of our journey.”
In her own life, motherhood for Mathis means capitalizing on what she does well — connecting with her children — and focusing on what she could improve — being more present. It was actually Mathis’s late mother who taught her the importance of that last one. “Feeling her loss has made me value time and the stark reminder that it’s not guaranteed. I am truly grateful for the time I have with my family and cherish each moment.”
Others may define success as reaching a certain level of achievement, but for Mathis, it’s a journey that starts with giving herself grace and surrounding herself with people who uplift her. “I feel like I will always have the desire to reach new heights and try new things that push my boundaries in my career. However, real success to me is truly defined by my life as a whole; surrounding myself with loving relationships, positive experiences, and daily gratitude.”
She also credits her success to advocating for herself, which was something Mathis was forced to learn early on in her career. “Everyone will tell you ‘no’ but it only takes one ‘yes.’ Betting on myself against all odds has worked out pretty well for me. If you believe in the power of you, others will, too. If you can’t see it, no one will be able to see it for you, so be the lead in your story and let everyone else be your supporting cast.”
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