Sex toys are the perfect distraction if you’re social distancing. They don’t require going outside. They can help displace anxiety and pass the time. And you can use them on your own or with a partner, depending on whom you’re cooped up with and how much you want to have sex with them.
Below, the Cut has rounded up 21 of the best sex toys you can buy online. To find them, we combed through brutally honest Amazon reviews and sought the guidance of Polly Rodriguez, the founder of online shop Unbound. She’s used to offering advice because so many of her customers are sex-toy virgins. “The vast majority of people who come to us are looking to buy a vibrator for the first time,” she says. “But then are also partners who want to buy it as a gift or people who are looking to try something new. Maybe they’re interested in BDSM or massage.”
She says that when shopping for a sex toy, you should aim to “understand what the high-level use case is that you’re looking to buy a product for.” In other words, spend some time thinking about how you’ll realistically be incorporating it into your life.
Read on for our list of the best sex toys for every scenario, whether you’re looking for a vibrator or under-bed restraints. Happy browsing.
A Super-Responsive Vibrator
Saucy is a disc-shaped silicone toy with haptic technology that allows it to vibrate harder the more you squeeze it, but also has a lock mode for when you find the level of vibration you’d like to keep. The unique, flexible shape is indicative of a sea change in the industry. “Historically, most products were designed by men,” Rodriguez explains, which accounts for the number of “phallic-looking, veiny products” that have dominated the space. “I think for most people that’s a pretty big turnoff and it’s intimidating and overwhelming,” she says.
The Best Lube
When looking for a good lubricant, Rodriguez suggests keeping an eye out for two things. You want one that’s water-based so that it doesn’t degrade any silicone toys, and free of parabens.“If you’re someone who gets a lot of yeast infections, it’s good to make sure that there’s no glycerin, which is just sugar,” she adds. This one fits the bill, plus it’s made with 95 percent organic aloe vera. Reviewers love it, including plenty of people who say other lubes never worked for them.
The Best Massage Oil
“Massage candles are a really great way to try something new that often isn’t intimidating to people,” Rodriguez explains. Soy-based candles burn at a lower temperature so you don’t hurt yourself or someone else while giving a massage; the design of the Kama Sutra tin also features a pour spout for no-mess drizzling.
The Best Restraints
For those who are looking to explore restraints, these are ranked highly. With wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, and under-bed straps, this set includes all the basics. The straps are easily adjusted and the cuffs are padded, which ensures a safe and comfortable experience.
The Best Butt Plug Set
Reviewers love the fact that this set comes with four different sizes. It’s good for beginners because it allows you the freedom to choose what best pleases you or your partner.
The Best G-Spot Vibrator
This is the top-rated vibrator on Amazon, and for good reason. It’s only $23, has a ten-speed vibration, and is ideal for finding pleasure all by yourself. The only downside is that it’s battery operated. Rodriguez recommends making sure any and all silicone products are made with medical-grade silicone (like this one) before inserting them into your body, or into someone else’s body.
The Best for Rabbit Vibrator Fans
Back in 1998, Sex and the City introduced rabbit-style vibrators into the mainstream conversation, and they’re still a popular choice. (Rodriguez explains that the product first got its name because rules and regulations prohibited manufacturers from shipping sex products, so they put a rabbit on the packaging.) This one charges by plugging into an outlet, and the design is shaped to fits into the body smoothly without feeling overly intrusive.
The Best Vibrator for People with Penises
This vibrating ring can work on two people at once, making it perfect for a duo. Although Amazon reviewers generally acknowledge that you don’t really need it, the consensus still seems to be But why wouldn’t you want it? It’s fun for both people, easy to use, and stretches to accommodate all sizes.
The Best Wand-Style Vibrator
The Hitachi Magic Wand is a cult classic that’s largely regarded as the best wand-style vibrator out there, as evidenced by over 1,000 glowing Amazon reviews. Wand vibrators, Rodriguez notes, are often really big, which works to their advantage. “The more space you have, the stronger the motor can be, which allows for stronger rumbling vibration. When you condense a motor, it has a higher frequency and so the vibration is a little bit more buzzy,” she explains.
The Best Sex Pillow
This product isn’t directly marketed as a pillow for sex, but as reviewers have noticed, it’s fantastic to use with certain sex positions and stimulate the G-spot. It also has a washable, removable cover for easy cleanup.
Best Sex Dice
If you’re looking to get creative, this dice set is just the thing. By combining the 6-, 10-, and 12-sided dice in pairs, you can generate 60 foreplay situations and 24 different sex positions. The set even comes with a booklet of illustrations, instructions, and tips to help you make the most of the positions you and your partner roll.
Best Glass Dildo
This elegant product is super-versatile: It can be used vaginally or anally, and because it’s glass, reviewers say you can put it in the microwave or freezer for temperature play.
Best Spanking Paddle
This leather paddle is small, but still packs a satisfying punch, reviewers say. They also rave about the control they have with this product — it’s not too large and unwieldy. And at just $10, the price can’t be beat.
Reviewers say this blindfold stays put, and they really enjoy how soft it is. It’s also long enough to be used as a restraint.
Best Feather Tickler
This feathered product is a great low-stakes sex toy — as long as your partner likes to be tickled. Reviewers say it holds up well and seldom loses feathers, and it has a leather slapper on the opposite end as an added bonus.
Best External Vibrator
The SVAKOM Echo Violet is small, quiet, and discreet, but reviewers say its still powerful enough to get the job done. You can press the up or down arrows on the device’s surface to increase or decrease the intensity of vibration, and it’s cordless, too. Just charge it in an outlet.
“Often design is an afterthought,” Rodriguez says about more traditional sex toys. But if the future of these products seems minimalist, it’s in part because it allows people to bring their own fantasy into their sessions. As Rodriguez explains, “It’s really important to give people the opportunity to define what is sexy for themselves.”
Best Travel Vibrator
This silicone vibrator is wireless for easy handling and has a bendable neck to ensure you get the right angle. It’s easily rechargeable — just plug it into any USB port or outlet. But the Mini Halo’s best feature is easily its 20 different vibration settings. You’re bound to find one that’s right for you.
Best Vibrating Butt Plug
This battery-powered vibrating anal plug is totally waterproof as well as latex-free. Reviewers say its size and spiral design makes it great for beginners, and love that it comes with an extra, removable bullet vibrator.
Best Pleasure Sleeve
The Shotpocket was designed especially for trans men and other trans folk who “have experienced growth downstairs from the use of testosterone,” the brand’s founder told Unbound. It uses suction to create sensation, and is made from medical-grade silicone.
The sex toy industry as a whole, Rodriguez noted, “needs to develop more products that cater to all different anatomies and gender identities. Part of that is finding the resources and money to develop those products. A lot of them don’t exist and they should, so that all people feel included in this conversation.”
Best Vibrator for Sensitive People
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