Columnist, the Cut.
Frankly, he’s right to be wary — your entire focus in life is on him.
You are at the center of a dysfunctional ecosystem.
But you do want something, or you wouldn’t be so upset about this.
This is an impossible, neuroses-inducing trap for any woman.
On loving what you do, taking a pay cut, and developing Ask Polly.
The main things holding you back from having kids are your worries and fears.
You’re angry at yourself for being a human with needs.
Notice how deeply you’ve made messiness and procrastination part of your identity.
You’re so used to living in a house of mirrors that the real world feels empty and lonely and sad by comparison.
Don’t just suck it up and be positive.
Everyone wants to know what their future will look like.
You need to develop and nurture a good relationship with yourself.
You have to admit to yourself just how bad this feels.
You’re a classic self-blaming overachieving perfectionist.
Start paying close attention to how social media functions in your life.
You shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting someone by your side.
Most men are terrible, but don’t let them control your happiness.
Having friends as an adult is nothing like having friends in your 20s.
Believing in love isn’t a personal failure.
You have to decide to be good to yourself.
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