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You need to understand your truest strengths.
You and your boyfriend are more alike than you might think.
You can’t fix this. Because no matter how “good” you are, he encounters you as a threat.
Romance cannot exist when one person is lying.
You don’t seem to be talking about actual holes in your life right now that need to be filled.
The “good” child, the fixer, is also someone who fixates.
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You can’t keep putting your best foot forward forever.
At first glance, you sound like someone who is extremely confused about reality.
Frankly, he’s right to be wary — your entire focus in life is on him.
You are at the center of a dysfunctional ecosystem.
But you do want something, or you wouldn’t be so upset about this.
This is an impossible, neuroses-inducing trap for any woman.
On loving what you do, taking a pay cut, and developing Ask Polly.
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You’re angry at yourself for being a human with needs.
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