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Alexa Tsoulis-Reay

  1. marriage: an investigation
    When Paying for Sex and Using Cocaine Don’t Tear Your Marriage Apart“If we can get through this, then I’m pretty sure we’re solid for the rest of our lives.”
  2. marriage: an investigation
    How a Marriage Survives the Death of a Child“If you were to ask me why this destroys some marriages, I would probably say that some marriages are ripe for being destroyed.”
  3. marriage: an investigation
    It Was Either Her or His Family. He Chose Her.“I think there’s a certain turning point in a marriage where you become a team.”
  4. marriage: an investigation
    What It’s Like to Finally Find the One, the Third Time Around“I don’t buy that argument that you have to work on yourself and be in this great place and you will attract the right person.”
  5. marriage: an investigation
    When You Realize You’ll Never Love Him as Much As He Loves You“I only want good things for him — he’s a good human being — and that includes the relationship he wants. I just don’t know how to give it to him.”
  6. marriage: an investigation
    When You Can’t Yell at Your Wife Because She Won’t Hear You“You can say a lot less shitty things when you’re really thinking about what you’re going to say.”
  7. secret side hustles
    ‘It’s Like I’m a Naked Shrink’What it’s like to have a side gig as a tantric masseuse.
  8. secret side hustles
    The Nurse Who Sells Her Own Breast Milk Online“Mothers who have an organic or vegan diet will charge up to $3 per ounce, but I’m just not that sort of woman.”
  9. secret side hustles
    The Publicist Who Dreads Getting Caught for Her Illegal Airbnb“I see this money as part of my income, and I depend on it. If we got found out, I’d have trouble paying my bills.”
  10. secret side hustles
    The Health Writer Who Moonlights As a Dominatrix“There are some dominatrixes who make bank, but I’m on the lazier side: $300 is pretty standard for an hour, and there’s no overhead.”
  11. secret side hustles
    The Music Teacher Who Travels the World As a Mystery Shopper“My boss doesn’t know I do this, and I’ve had a couple of close calls.”
  12. talking to
    Inside the Mind of a PlagiaristAfter recent scandals in the poetry world, the Cut spoke to three women with a history of plagiarism.
  13. my favorite places
    74 of Our Favorite New Yorkers on Their Favorite Places in New YorkFrom a 24-hour Ukrainian restaurant to biking in the Rockaways.
  14. really ridiculously good looking
    What It’s Like to Be Married to a Very Attractive Man“He’ll take a bite out of a cookie and throw it away because he can’t possibly eat the whole thing. I just think, ‘bite me.’”
  15. dating
    5 People on Coming Out As Poly to Their Families“My grandmother said ‘Well, that doesn’t sound too bad, I wouldn’t mind your grandfather having someone else to drag up to the cabin on the weekend!’”
  16. new mom
    I Was Convinced I Might Kill My ChildWhat it’s like to have postpartum psychosis.
  17. wedding season
    3 Married Men Talk About Taking Their Wife’s Last NameWhen it just makes more sense.
  18. sex
    Here’s How BDSM and Role Play Actually WorkEverything must be consensual.
  19. equal pay day
    6 HR Execs on How Equal Pay Really WorksA few tips about salaries and pay gaps.
  20. self reflection
    What It’s Like to Go Through Life As a Really Beautiful Woman“I look back over my life and think, What did my looks do for me?”
  21. sex
    What It’s Like to Visit ‘Dr. M,’ New York’s Erotic Masseur for Women“It’s so vanilla, and yet so kinky.”
  22. atypical
    What It’s Like to Reconstruct Your Own Foreskin“I will never grow back all the nerve endings lost during circumcision, but I did get back some sensitivity.”
  23. women of the world
    What It’s Like to Be a Legal Sex Worker in New Zealand“Because my work is legal, if anything goes wrong, the police have to help.”
  24. women of the world
    What It’s Like to Be a Woman Living in a War Zone“Everyone is suffering terribly from the war, and Yemeni women are suffering mentally, physically, and emotionally.”
  25. how to raise a boy
    How I Raised 5 Sons To Respect WomenThere’s a testosterone overload in my house.
  26. stoneman shooting
    What It’s Like Being a Teacher During a School ShootingTwo Sandy Hook teachers look back on how they survived, and what came after.
  27. spring fashion 2018
    Can Fashion Ever Be an Ethical Business?A notorious industry gets its #MeToo moment. Sort of.
  28. evangelicalism
    What It’s Like To Experience Gay Conversion Therapy“The pastor was inches away from my face, screaming for the demon to get out.”
  29. politics
    4 Women on How They Changed Their Lives After Trump“We joked about leaving. But I didn’t really think we’d do it.”
  30. explanations
    5 Men on Why They Didn’t Stop Sexual Harassment at Work“Who am I to decide how this should be handled?”
  31. coping diaries
    The Freelance Writer Using LSD for Depression“Three days a week, I take 4.5 micrograms before breakfast.”
  32. 7 Months Pregnant and Trapped in a Hurricane“I thought: My baby and I are going to drown.”
  33. coping diaries
    Coping Diaries: The Mom Who Ditched Benzos for Her BongThe first installment of our new series.
  34. charlottesville
    I Lost My Son to the Alt-Right MovementA mother reflects on her son’s descent into hate.
  35. i don't
    7 Stories of Total Wedding DisastersTrue tales of worst-case scenarios, from natural disasters to infidelity to permanent brain damage.
  36. What It’s Really Like to Be a Phone-Sex OperatorThe lead plaintiff in a class-action lawsuit against a national phone-sex provider takes us through a day in her life.
  37. amateur hour
    7 Pioneers of Amateur Web Porn Look BackDIY porn stars and successful Pornhub personalities explain how they got into the business in the first place.
  38. popular
    I Was the Queen Bee: 3 High School Bullies on Their Reigns of Terror“You feel invincible when you know you’re popular.”
  39. Some Psychologists Call for a Positive Framing of Autism and Niche InterestsFour people with autism — and one parent of a severely autistic adult — share their stories.
  40. The Intriguing Potential of a Little-Known Plant From Southeast AsiaThree people share their stories.
  41. abortion rights 2017
    What Abortion Looks Like in America Right NowSeven stories about a pro-choice movement under attack.
  42. 8 Therapists on Postelection Anxiety — Their Clients’ and Their OwnIt’s been a busy month.
  43. cut cover story
    There Are No More Secrets in Sperm DonationGenetic testing has made it easier than ever for children of anonymous donors to fill in their family trees — whether their parents are ready or not.
  44. cut cover story
    Granddaughters of the RevolutionEleven descendants of suffragists remind us that it wasn’t so long ago that women couldn’t vote for president, much less run for it.
  45. atypical
    When Your Child Eats Magnets And Other Things That Are Definitely Not Food“He’d get Happy Meals and eat the entire meal. The box. The wrappers. The straws. The lids. The toys.”
  46. atypical
    What It’s Like When Your Daydreams Are Just As Real As LifeA maladaptive daydreamer describes just how overwhelming it can be.
  47. atypical
    What It’s Like to Be a Celibate Pedophile“There are a lot of pedophiles who never offend. It’s understandable that people have never heard of us, because we must remain hidden.”
  48. What It’s Like to Be a Little Person in a Very Big City“‘Midget’ doesn’t define me, ‘little person’ doesn’t define me — none of those words define me.”
  49. q&a
    Chaos, Privilege, and a Childhood on the Upper East SideAriel Leve talks about her new memoir, An Abbreviated Life.
  50. atypical
    What It’s Like to Cope With Your Agoraphobia by Buying a Motor HomeThat’s one way to do it.
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