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Alyssa Shelasky

Columnist, the Cut
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Alyssa Shelasky has edited the Cut's “Sex Diaries” column since 2014. She's also the author of the essay collection This Might Be Too Personal and the memoir Apron Anxiety.

  1. sex diaries
    The Painter Whose Long-Distance Boyfriend Has a New LoverThis week’s sex diary.
  2. sex diaries
    The Woman Who Flies to Another City for Rebound SexThis week’s sex diary.
  3. sex diaries
    The Real Estate Developer Having Great Sex With Her ExThis week’s sex diary.
  4. work
    7 Stories of Dramatic Career PivotsIncluding a publicist who went to cosmetology school and an actor who became a financial adviser.
  5. sex diaries
    The Record Store Worker Questioning Non-MonogamyThis week’s sex diary.
  6. sex diaries
    The Woman Falling for a Real-Life ‘Indiana Jones’This week’s sex diary.
  7. sex diaries
    The Assistant Who Sleeps With a Guy in a Santa CostumeThis week’s sex diary.
  8. sex diaries
    The Woman Who Has Sex for the First Time in 17 YearsThis week’s sex diary.
  9. sex diaries
    The Woman Whose Mom Sends Her Money to Join a Dating AppThis week’s sex diary.
  10. relationships
    Both Sides of a Breakup: She Hooked Up With a Woman She Met at WorkTwo exes explain why it ended.
  11. sex diaries
    The Nurse Whose Husband Wants Sex Every NightThis week’s sex diary.
  12. sex diaries
    The Divorced Guy Too Tired for SexThis week’s sex diary.
  13. sex diaries
    The Art-Museum Worker Sleeping With a Married CoupleThis week’s sex diary.
  14. relationships
    Does Sex Have to Suffer in Long-Term Relationships?Emily Nagoski, the popular sex educator and author of the new book Come Together, has some answers.
  15. sex diaries
    The Grad Student With a ‘Praise Kink’This week’s sex diary.
  16. sex diaries
    The Single Mom Overwhelmed by Her Party-Girl DateThis week’s sex diary.
  17. relationships
    A Practical Guide to Modern PolyamoryFor the curious couple.
  18. sex diaries
    The Divorced Consultant Turned Off by Her Date’s KidsThis week’s sex diary.
  19. sex diaries
    The Polyamorous Farmer Looking for Lovers in the Off-SeasonThis week’s sex diary.
  20. celebrity
    Ariana Madix’s Dating Red FlagsThere’s one move you definitely shouldn’t make when ordering cocktails in front of the bartender and Vanderpump star.
  21. sex diaries
    The Utah Woman With 3 BoyfriendsThis week’s sex diary.
  22. sex diaries
    The OnlyFans Model Looking for Sugar Daddies in LondonThis week’s sex diary.
  23. sex diaries
    The Bartender Whose Lover Forgot Her BirthdayThis week’s sex diary.
  24. sex diaries
    The Woman Who’s Worried Her Co-worker Is Dating Her ExThis week’s sex diary.
  25. sex diaries
    The Lawyer Having Breakup Sex Before WorkThis week’s sex diary.
  26. sex diaries
    The Woman Getting Flown Out for a One-Night StandThis week’s sex diary.
  27. sex diaries
    The Interior Decorator Who Wants to Seduce Her TrainerThis week’s sex diary.
  28. bravoholics
    BravoCon Diaries: A Fever Dream of Humping, Shade, and ShawarmaI landed in Vegas with a “Send it to Darrell” hoodie and a dream. I left with a pounding headache and a happy heart.
  29. sex diaries
    The Yoga Instructor Whose One-Night Stand Might Be MarriedThis week’s sex diary.
  30. sex diaries
    The 40-Year-Old Trying to Party His Ex AwayThis week’s sex diary.
  31. celebrity
    Christina Aguilera Will Never Have Sex to “Let’s Get It On”And other (non-)rules for the bedroom from the pop diva turned sexual-wellness brand founder.
  32. sex diaries
    The Literary Agent Who Has an Affair and Leaves Her HusbandThis week’s sex diary.
  33. relationships
    The 3 Things Every Couple Fights AboutAnd more insights on conflict resolution from Esther Perel.
  34. relationships
    The Woman Jealous of Her Boyfriend’s Date“It is my first week being in an officially ethically nonmonogamous relationship.”
  35. talking to
    What It’s Like to Free BleedAccording to a woman who hasn’t used tampons or pads in seven years.
  36. relationships
    The 52-Year-Old Scientist Having His First ThreesomeThis week’s sex diary.
  37. relationships
    The Woman Getting Back Into Group SexThis week’s sex diary.
  38. both sides of a breakup
    Both Sides of a Breakup: Instead of Getting Divorced, They Got PregnantTwo exes explain why it ended.
  39. sex diaries
    The Executive Assistant With a Sugar Daddy in CalabasasThis week’s sex diary.
  40. relationships
    The 41-Year-Old Discovering That She Likes Dirty TalkThis week’s sex diary.
  41. sex diaries
    The Woman Getting the “Ick” From Her DateThis week’s sex diary.
  42. relationships
    The Fashion Assistant Collecting Orgasms in LondonThis week’s sex diary.
  43. both sides of a breakup
    Both Sides of a Breakup: He Was Living With His GirlfriendTwo exes explain why it ended.
  44. relationships
    The Woman Matching With the Absolute Worst Men on TinderThis week’s sex diary.
  45. come here often?
    How to Flirt, According to a Bartender“I know that at any bar or party I can get anyone I want.”
  46. come here often?
    8 People on Their Most Disastrous Flirting Attempts“We both ignored it until the smell went away.”
  47. sex diaries
    The Social Media Manager Who Makes a Move on Her BossThis week’s sex diary.
  48. sex diaries
    The Waiter Wondering If He’ll Have Sex on the Third DateThis week’s sex diary.
  49. sex diaries
    The Gallerista Getting an Erotic Massage at the Russian BathhouseThis week’s sex diary.
  50. sex diaries
    The 50-Year-Old Reconnecting With Her Summer-Camp CrushThis week’s sex diary.
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