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    ‘I Don’t Know Who I Am After My Divorce’I don’t think identifying yourself by the people around you is as bad as it sounds.
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    ‘I Came Out. No One Cares.’You have to accept that you can’t control how people react to you.
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    ‘I Got Ghosted. Big Time.’The best-case scenario here is that he is merely a coward.
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    ‘How Do You Get Over Someone?’You can’t make good memories while you’re spending all your time in the past.
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    ‘How Do I Stop Feeling Angry at My Parents?’I’m not going to ask you to forgive anybody, but I do think some grace would serve you well.
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    ‘How Do I Get Over Imposter Syndrome?’I want you to walk into a room and, even if it’s full of faces that look nothing like yours, know that you belong there.
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    ‘I Like Dating Latino Men. Am I Fetishizing Them?’Have your hookups, treat people with respect, and try not to feel special for being white and shopping in the Fiesta Mart.
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    ‘My Brother Abused Me. How Do I Get Past It?’The peace you want won’t come from anyone else. It will come from you.
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    ‘I Blew Up My Life. Now What?’Don’t confuse the in-between periods of your life with the sum of life itself.
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    ‘I’m Done With Religion, But I Miss Spirituality’Find your own rituals — ones that enrich you, ones that feel sacred enough, ones that will get you out of bed.
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    ‘How Do I Stop Chasing Approval From Men?’Don’t give strangers the power to make you feel good or bad about yourself.
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    ‘I’m Going Bald and It’s Killing My Confidence’All your hair could fall out and there would still be men who would be attracted to you.
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    ‘Help! I Have No Clue How to Act in a Relationship.’It’s less important to avoid saying the wrong thing 100 percent of the time, and more important that you navigate those missteps with respect.
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    ‘Am I Petty?’We all have people we don’t like. But you’re letting your enemies live in your brain rent-free.
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    ‘Will I Ever Get Over My Breakup?’Healing is hard to notice — it’s slow and incremental.
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    ‘I’m Paralyzed by Anxiety’Start focusing on the process and the pleasure, not the product.
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    ‘I’m Ashamed of Where I Come From’It’s natural to feel unsatisfied with what you’ve inherited.
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    ‘I Think I Might Be Ugly’To a certain degree, we have the power to name ourselves, to determine what we make of the hand we’ve been dealt.
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    ‘I Wish I Had a Best Friend’As the world reopens, many of us are being reintroduced to social anxieties we haven’t had to deal with in a while.
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    ‘I’m Ashamed of Who I Used to Be’While you can’t change the past, you do have a good deal of agency in how you frame it and tell your own story.
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    Hola Papi Sets Me StraightOn this week’s episode, discovering what makes truly good advice, with J.P. Brammer.
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    ‘Am I Unlovable?’Romantic love isn’t the only or most important kind. If you have some love in your life, meet it happily and let it be enough for a while.
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    ‘Am I Too Sensitive?’You won’t always have control over feelings that bubble up. What you do have control over is whether or not you acknowledge them.
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    ‘Help! I’m Annoying’Humanity is an enormous group project, and we’re all unwilling partners in it. That means we will often be annoyed with one another.
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    ‘I Don’t Know How to Be Single’It’s harmful to let a fear of being disliked govern your existence.
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    ‘How Can I Make Peace With the Life I Have?’It’s okay that you feel unsatisfied right this moment. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It just means you’re a person.
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    ‘Will I Ever Meet My Soul Mate?’I believe in true love. Do I believe in soul mates? No. Absolutely not.
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    ‘I’m Sad Over a Relationship That Never Even Happened’It’s human to get attached to your daydreams. The thing about “almost relationships” is they are 99 percent fantasy.
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    ‘I’m So Jealous of My Hot Friend’We can learn to look at ourselves in such a way that we see someone worthy of love, happiness, and affection.
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    ‘I Have a Good Life. I’m Happy. Why Isn’t That Enough?’You need to strike a balance between fantasy and reality: Someone probably isn’t going to waltz into your life and fix everything for you.
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    ‘Things Could Be Worse for Me, and I Feel Guilty’Happiness can and does happen in a world of hurt. It has to. What other world would it happen in?
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    ‘I Slept With a Woman. Am I Still Gay?’Don’t be afraid you’re committing identity fraud just because you’re not sure which word to use yet.
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    ‘I Want to Be More Latino. Is That a Thing?’We’ve been conditioned to couple lived experience with “authenticity”; there are a set number of things a “real Latinx” must do.
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    ‘Being Single Really, Really Sucks Right Now’I’m lonely. You’re lonely. It’s fine to feel upset about it.
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    ‘I Feel Guilty for Living So Far From Home!’Just like our lives, home is a shifting, changing thing because, well, we carry it with us.