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Dec. 12, 2018
‘I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself to More Successful Writers!’ You need to stop seeing the world through the lens of your fears.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Dec. 5, 2018
‘I Always Steal My Friends’ Boyfriends, and I Can’t Stop!’ You’re telling an inaccurate story about how you keep falling into emotional quicksand.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Nov. 28, 2018
I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life When you live inside of your shame, everything you see is inadequate and embarrassing.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Nov. 22, 2018
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Nov. 21, 2018
‘He’s “Confused.” Should I Wait for Him?’ Confused is a placeholder that could keep you in a state of limbo indefinitely.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Nov. 14, 2018
‘I’m Lazy, Reckless, and Addicted to Social Media. Help!’ The way you’re processing the world is broken. If you don’t fix it, you’ll just keep creating new problems.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Nov. 7, 2018
‘I Am So Bad at Making New Friends!’ Resist the urge to treat friendlessness as a personal failure.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Oct. 31, 2018
‘My Boyfriend of Three Years Just Ghosted Me!’ Your ex-boyfriend strikes me as the kind of person who is acutely aware of his own feelings, but has very little knowledge of other people’s feelings.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Oct. 24, 2018
‘I’m Slow at Everything and It’s Ruining My Life’ I think you have to work with what you’ve been given.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Oct. 17, 2018
‘I’m Obsessed With a Woman Who Doesn’t Want Me’ You seem to want to get swept away in a fantasy without ever having to show up.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Oct. 10, 2018
‘Everything I Do Is Wrong’ A lot of people — women in particular — feel unbelievably accountable to others.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Oct. 3, 2018
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Sept. 26, 2018
‘My Ex-Best Friend Is Talking Trash About Me to Other People!’ It’s understandable to want to know what others think of you, but at some point you have to recognize that you’re gathering information you can’t use.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Sept. 19, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘My Parents Don’t Love Me!’ You don’t deserve to get hurt, over and over again.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Sept. 12, 2018
‘How Can I Make Art When So Many People Expect So Much Greatness From Me?’ It’s crucial to recognize that the work IS the end, not a means to an end.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Sept. 5, 2018
‘How Can I Believe in Anything, After So Many Shitty Things Have Happened?’ When the stakes are high, trying to navigate your current, disappointing reality is the most terrifying thing of all.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Aug. 29, 2018
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Aug. 22, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Should I Quit My Day Job to Write a Book?’ It’s harder to finish creative work when you view it as a means to an end.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Aug. 15, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I Like Myself, But I Hate Being Single’ I can tell that you believe in yourself. But do you believe in love?
By Heather Havrilesky
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Aug. 8, 2018
By Heather Havrilesky
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Aug. 1, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Should I Divorce My Extremely Frustrating Husband?’ You both seem to like having someone to blame when things go wrong.
By Heather Havrilesky
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July 25, 2018
My Husband Dumped Me and Took My Business and I Don’t Know How to Move On The way you’re thinking about your pain and loss is making it harder for you to live.
By Heather Havrilesky
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July 18, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Who Am I Without My Anger?’ It takes a long time to learn how to feel your emotions without identifying criminals.
By Heather Havrilesky
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July 11, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I Feel Empty’ You have no connection to your success because you don’t know why you do what you do.
By Heather Havrilesky
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July 4, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I’m a Single Mom and My Friends Walk All Over Me’ You have to accept that other people have different priorities, values, and rules from yours.
By Heather Havrilesky
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June 27, 2018
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June 20, 2018
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June 13, 2018
‘Someone Is Saying Bad Things About Me and I’m Losing Sleep Over It!’ Eventually, we become so exhausted by games of make believe that we not-so-secretly relish the idea of making a gigantic, ugly mess.
By Heather Havrilesky
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June 6, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Why Do New Mothers Hate Their Husbands?’ Asking for what you want does not make you ungrateful.
By Heather Havrilesky
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May 30, 2018
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May 23, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘My Son’s Girlfriend Is Keeping Me From My Grandchildren!’ You probably have your reasons for disliking your daughter-in-law. But she is your daughter-in-law now, even without the law involved.
By Heather Havrilesky
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May 16, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I Can’t Stop Being Angry at My Boyfriend for Moving Away’ The story you’re telling yourself is inaccurate, and it’s hurting you.
By Heather Havrilesky
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May 9, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘My Mother Has Stage 3 Ovarian Cancer and I’m Falling Apart’ Ultimately, only you can decide how you want to navigate this sickness with her.
By Heather Havrilesky
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May 2, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Should I Dump My Toxic Friend?’ It’s crucial to learn how to tell people what you will and won’t do for them.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Apr. 25, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I Might Get a Big Job Offer, But I Don’t Want to Change My Life!’ You have to tune in to your deepest feelings as you explore this possibility.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Apr. 18, 2018
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Apr. 11, 2018
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Apr. 3, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Should I Leave My Amazing But Incredibly Frustrating Relationship?’ You can’t fix this. Because no matter how “good” you are, he encounters you as a threat.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Mar. 28, 2018
By Heather Havrilesky
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Mar. 21, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘I Wish I Had Old Friends!’ You don’t seem to be talking about actual holes in your life right now that need to be filled.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Mar. 14, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘My Dad Doesn’t Appreciate Me Enough!’ The “good” child, the fixer, is also someone who fixates.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Mar. 7, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘My Friends Keep Bringing Up My Sordid Past in Mixed Company!’ What good is trust and intimacy and a long history of friendship, if you can’t ask for exactly what you want?
By Heather Havrilesky
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Mar. 2, 2018
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Mar. 1, 2018
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Feb. 28, 2018
By Heather Havrilesky
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Feb. 27, 2018
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Feb. 26, 2018
Writers, Here’s How to Deal With Self-Doubt Heather Havrilesky’s best Ask Polly advice about writing.
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Feb. 22, 2018
Should I Have a Baby, Maybe? Heather Havrilesky’s best Ask Polly advice about having children.
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Feb. 21, 2018
Ask Polly: ‘Should I Meet With My Mom?’ At first glance, you sound like someone who is extremely confused about reality.
By Heather Havrilesky
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Feb. 20, 2018
If You Hate Your Job, Read This Heather Havrilesky’s best Ask Polly advice on how to be happy with your career.
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