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  1. first person
    The Crisis That Gave Me My Brother BackIn caring for our sick father, we found our way back to each other.
  2. first person
    To Care for My Family, I Thought I Had to Hide My AbuseI wanted to believe my children’s father wouldn’t hurt us. I wanted to prove I’d care for him no matter what.
  3. first person
    No Longer My Mother’s KeeperAfter a lifetime of taking care of her — often when she didn’t deserve it — I realized my own kids needed me more.
  4. first person
    My PMDD Ruled My Life. Then I Got on Zepbound.Since I started weight-loss drugs, my monthly cycle is no longer hellish. Doctors have no idea why.
  5. first person
    My Breast Reduction From HellAfter my divorce, I wanted to make a change. Then the complications started.
  6. first person
    How Does My Divorce Make You Feel?As a therapist, I try to keep my personal life private. After my public split, that was no longer in my control.
  7. chapters
    Screaming for FreedomCorky the Orca’s cries from captivity have shattered glass. I know the feeling.
  8. first person
    Breaking Up With My In-Laws Over ImmigrationMy father-in-law asked if the reason I cared so much was because I was “illegal” myself.
  9. first person
    Rodney Alcala Didn’t Kill Me. Forty Years Later, I Asked Him Why.Decades after escaping the “The Dating Game Killer” — the man depicted in Woman of the Hour — I visited him in prison in search of an answer.
  10. first person
    Talking to My Dad From the Other SideAll I knew about my father was that he died when I was a toddler — until a psychic reading finally told the truth about him, our family, and myself.
  11. parenting
    The Accidental Day Care in My Living RoomWhen our sons’ Brooklyn nursery lost its license, we decided to play host until the problem was resolved. How long could it take?
  12. first person
    Can a Dating Stylist Fix Your Love Life?When you’re seeing someone, who they see has everything and nothing to do with your outfit.
  13. personal style
    What If My Personal Style Isn’t So Personal?I spent years trying to make my outfits more unique, only to find myself in a whole other genre of basic.
  14. first person
    My Mother’s Envy Will Outlive Us BothEven from inside the fog of dementia, the toxic competitiveness that plagued my growing up remains crystal clear.
  15. first person
    In the Fitting Room Post-OzempicFiguring out what to wear — and what to come to terms with — after the transformation from taking weight-loss drugs.
  16. first person
    Who Am I Without My Baldness?I spent years learning to embrace my alopecia. Now, thanks to a new treatment, my hair is growing — but so is the feeling that I’ve lost something.
  17. first person
    How Fashion Critic Cathy Horyn Lost (Then Found) Her Personal StyleAt 67, after four decades of covering fashion, I finally knew how I wanted to dress.
  18. first person
    The Divorce TapesMy family knew that my father had been tapping the phone lines. Only later would I discover the secrets the recordings contained.
  19. first person
    My Disinheritance Gave Me What I Actually NeededWhen I wrote about abuse I remembered from childhood, my dad wrote me out of his will. My future, and my relationship, feel more secure than ever.
  20. first person
    My Decision to Go CommandoTwo years ago, menopause finally freed me from my love-hate relationship with underwear. My body, it turns out, had other plans.
  21. nostalgia
    Diner table
    Why Did I Ever Give Up Family Chain Restaurants?The artichoke dip is good. The nostalgia — and permission for my kids to be messy — is even better.
  22. first person
    Looking for the Woman Who Made UsAfter a lifetime apart, my brothers and I went searching for our biological mother. Instead, we found a family we never could have imagined.
  23. infidelity
    UNFAITHFUL, Olivier Martinez, Diane Lane, 2002, TM & Copyright (c) 20th Century Fox Film Corp. All r
    Why Some Women Cheat When They Hit Middle AgeThe reasons more and more women over 50 are crossing the line from infatuation to infidelity aren’t all what you’d expect.
  24. relationships
    THE NOTEBOOK, Ryan Gosling, Rachel McAdams, 2004, (c) New Line/courtesy Everett Collection
    Is Cheating Okay If You End Up With the Love of Your Life?A close examination of one of the dating world’s golden rules.
  25. marriage
    Something To Talk About - 1995
    My Husband Showed Me Every Text With the Other WomanHow one relationship (eventually) recovered from cheating.
  26. chapters
    Hairbrush, Mirror and Jewelry Jar
    What My Clients Told Me About Their WivesMy allegiance was forever shifting between the men I went to bed with and the women back at home.
  27. i tried it
    One Night at This Sauna and Ice-Bath Club Gave Me a Sober HangoverAt Othership, after the sweating and shivering and primal screaming comes some questionable group therapy. Should I go back?
  28. first person
    Living With My Husband’s Dead WifeMy husband’s first happily-ever-after was cut short. Fifteen years into our own, I’m finally ready to put their story away for the sake of ours.
  29. wait what is happening on tiktok?
    I Went Looking for a Man in FinanceAre private-equity bros really having a moment? I went bar-hopping in search of blue-eyed, six-foot-five men with trust funds to ask them.
  30. dating
    I Changed My Race to White on HingeAnd got better matches. Is the algorithm the problem, or the men?
  31. first person
    The Famous Friend in My HeadI see him all the time: We’re two dads sharing a Brooklyn neighborhood and a routine. Shouldn’t we be friends?
  32. family
     VICTORIA 2013-10-11
Canadian author Alice Munro, winner of the Nobel Prize in Literature in 2013.
Foto: Axel Oberg / XP / TT / Kod 7139
    Alice Munro Was Hiding in Plain SightI know the Nobel laureate’s writing by heart. I know her failures by heart, too.
  33. first person
    I Was Diagnosed With Autism in My 40s. It Gave Me a Lot of Answers.By 43, Mary HK Choi had come up with many explanations for her strangeness around other people. Was it something else all along?
  34. chapters
    My Job Was My Life. Then I Got Fired.How failure changed my relationship to work.
  35. self
    Should I Be a Mom, or Should I Stay a ‘Brat’?Charli XCX wrestles with life’s big questions, for all of us.
  36. chapters
    What If Motherhood Isn’t Transformative at All?We’re often told that becoming a parent will alter one’s identity. For me, the change never came.
  37. first person
    Carried AwayAll I wanted was to literally get swept off my feet by a man. Then I did. So why do I feel weird about it?
  38. aging
    Welcome to the Millennial Midlife CrisisAs we enter our 40s, we’re being forced to confront something awful — not our mortality. Our finances.
  39. relationships
    Where Have All My Guy Friends Gone?As we get older and couple off, it feels harder and harder for men and women to remain platonically close. But what if we made it easier?
  40. first person
    Talking About My StillbirthOn Mother’s Day, when I walk down the street with my family, people see me as a mother of two. But I know the truth. I’m a mother of three.
  41. first person
    Angel: Soft Focus
    So Was Body Positivity ‘All a Big Lie’?If we all want to be skinny again — and we have “miracle drugs” to get us there — can we still love ourselves at any size?
  42. family
    The Last Thing My Mother WantedHealthy at age 74, she decided there was nothing on earth still keeping her here, not even us.
  43. first person
    Seeking Salvation From Postpartum AnxietyAtheist Kailyn McCord felt suffocated by the worry of new motherhood. A serene Evangelical acquaintance offered a way out.
  44. as told to
    Tents in a camp of homeless people in Utah
    She Was Fined Thousands of Dollars for Sleeping OutsideA formerly unhoused woman just wants to get back on her feet, while a major Supreme Court case will determine if her fines stand.
  45. feuds
    Why Does Everyone Hate My Dog?In a city bubbling over with rage, pets — and their owners — are enemy No. 1.
  46. relationships
    The Case for Marrying an Older ManA woman’s life is all work and little rest. An age gap relationship can help.
  47. first person
    I Was the Only Girl on My School’s Wrestling TeamWhat I learned from my matches with the boys.
  48. royals
    Kate Middleton Wanted the Same Privacy I HadAs a cancer survivor, I understand why the Princess of Wales tried to protect her diagnosis.
  49. first person
    Portrait of young woman in plane illuminated with sunset light
    Hypnotizing Myself to FlyWhen I could no longer bear the idea of hurtling myself across the sky in a giant aluminum tube, I found help. More than I’d bargained for.
  50. first person
    Going for Botox With My 82-Year-Old MomIn my 20s, I judged my mother for her midlife vanity. Now that I’m 55, I get it.
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