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It’s Complicated

  1. it’s complicated
    The Unexpected Loneliness of Bringing My Fiancé Back to My HometownHe was emblematic of the new life I’d built since I left — and of how I no longer fit in the rural community where I’d grown up.
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    After a Breakup, I Bought Closure on eBayIt started when I found the listing for the tie I’d given him for Christmas.
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    When the Relationship Can’t Possibly Live Up to the Meet-CuteI met a guy in the most romantic way possible while on vacation, then worried that actually dating would ruin a great story.
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    That Time I Accidentally Emailed an Old Love-Letter Draft to My ExWhile going through my unsent messages with my new boyfriend.
  5. it’s complicated
    Being Orbited by Exes Is My Favorite ThingWhen I catch one looking at my Instagram Story, it allows me to imagine, for a moment, that my life is as fun as the social-media show I’ve curated.
  6. it’s complicated
    It’s Fine to Keep Your Sexual History a Secret From Your PartnerMy husband has no idea how many people I’ve slept with, and I plan to make sure it stays that way.
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    Learning About Love From My Parents’ InfidelityHow my dad’s affair shaped the way I grew up to think about what matters in relationships.
  8. it’s complicated
    When Sexting Is Better Than Actual SexIt’s the superior form of the casual hookup.
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    The Best First Date Is a Boring Coffee DateOr something similarly unadventurous.
  10. it’s complicated
    You Don’t Have to Move in TogetherOn taking a pause between relationship milestones.
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    The Restrictive Diet That Changed My MarriageFood was the foundation of my relationship with my husband. After a health scare, we had to redefine what brought us closer.
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    The Struggle of Setting Digital Boundaries in an Open RelationshipIt didn’t bother me that my boyfriend was spending the night with someone else – until I saw it unfold online.
  13. it’s complicated
    Why Won’t Any of My Friends Set Me Up?This is a hill I will die on: The setup is the absolute best way to meet someone, and it’s a tragedy that dating apps are slowly killing it off.
  14. it’s complicated
    What to Know Before Getting Back Together With an ExIt had been six years since Austin and I broke up, but we weren’t sure whether the time apart would help or hurt this time around.
  15. it’s complicated
    Befriending the Woman Who Catfished Me“Ryan,” who I had met online and grown close with, didn’t exist. But still, I couldn’t cut the relationship out of my life.
  16. it’s complicated
    Mastering the Art of Caring Less Made Me Better at MarriageHow an ancient philosophical concept taught me to embrace spontaneity.
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    The Strangeness of Dating Again After My Dad’s DeathMourning my dad made all the normal preoccupations of having a crush suddenly feel ridiculous.
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    I Unfollowed My Boyfriend on Twitter to Save Our RelationshipHis social-media presence was making me hate him in real life.
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    The Mysterious Medical Condition that Defined All My RelationshipsNo doctor could figure out why I was in chronic pain. In the meantime, I struggled to let men get close to me.
  20. it’s complicated
    That Time My Ex Tried to Buy Me Out of Our CatSharing a pet can turn an amicable split into an ugly one.
  21. the cut shop
    Wear Your ‘Hanger’ on Your SleeveA Cut T-shirt about the dangers of dating while hangry.
  22. it’s complicated
    Rebuilding a Sex Life Destroyed by Postpartum DepressionI couldn’t reconcile the idea of my husband as my caretaker with the memory of the man I’d been attracted to.
  23. it’s complicated
    My Failed Experiment With Non-MonogamyAnd, with the same guy, a more successful experiment with BDSM.
  24. it’s complicated
    The Dating App That Put My Friends in Charge of My Love LifeMaybe they’d have better judgment than I did.
  25. it’s complicated
    All the Steps I Took to Make Sure I Stayed Friends With My ExNo awkwardness.
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    Bingeing on TV-Recap Podcasts Got Me Through My DivorceSome were for shows I hadn’t even seen, but they still helped me feel like part of a community.
  27. it’s complicated
    Being Hangry Almost Destroyed My RelationshipA story of food, fights, and plenty of therapy.
  28. it’s complicated
    Why I Only Date Recently Divorced DadsA pitch for the best category of single men.
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    Keeping the Spark Alive As a Young Person in an Old Person’s BodyWhen complications from my hip surgery left me in chronic pain, romance became a struggle.
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    Why I Don’t Acknowledge My Relationships on Social MediaConfessions of an online under-sharer.
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    Never Take a Romantic Vacation for Your Second DateThe story of a romantic Paris weekend turned disaster.
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    That Time I Had a Disastrous Secret Affair With My RoommateIt was, unsurprisingly, a terrible idea.
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    The Joys of the Part-Time Long-Distance RelationshipIt gives me just the right amount of space.
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    But Actually, What Does ‘Single’ Really Mean?I’d been writing off relationships that weren’t “official,” even though they were still meaningful to me.
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    How to Date When You’re Waiting for CancerI used to wonder if prospective boyfriends were funny enough. Now I had to consider whether they’d be helpful during chemo.
  36. it’s complicated
    That Time My Ex Found the Fake Wedding Registry I’d Made for UsAs he was putting together a real one with his new fiancée.
  37. it’s complicated
    When You and Your Partner Have Very Different Approaches to Discussing ExesI was the type who deleted all photo evidence of past relationships. My fiancé liked to savor those memories – and the pictures to go with them.
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    The Struggle of Learning How to Be a Girlfriend for the First TimeI’d never had to look out for anyone besides myself before — and getting out of my solo mind-set involved a steep learning curve.
  39. Having a Relationship Contract Saved Me From My Own Dating AnxietyAfter my divorce, I couldn’t stop worrying that I just couldn’t handle serious relationships.
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    Social Media Helped Me Connect With My Husband in a Way I Couldn’t in Real LifeI struggle with the non-verbal cues of flirting. On the internet, that’s never an issue.
  41. it’s complicated
    The Dating Advice From My Dad That Saved Our RelationshipIt took a pep talk after my first heartbreak for me to realize my father had always been paying attention.
  42. it’s complicated
    Hooking Up With My Co-worker Made Our Trashy TV Jobs BearableAfter spending long days working on a gory true-crime show, secret sex in the edit room felt better than therapy.
  43. it’s complicated
    My Failed French Dating ExperimentI moved to Paris, found the French boyfriend of my American dreams, and realized that I missed the way relationships worked back across the ocean.
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    The Challenge of Enjoying Sex While Wearing a WigIt’s hard to be in the moment when you’re worried about your hair falling off your head.
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    That Time My Ex Made Me the Villain in His NovelBut reading about myself as the evil girlfriend turned out to be exactly the boost I needed.
  46. it’s complicated
    I Tried Using Personality Tests to Save My RelationshipWhat happens when you attempt to research your way out of real-life conflict.
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    The Frustration of Being an Open-Relationship Guru to All My FriendsWhat I wish people knew: Just because my partner and I aren’t monogamous doesn’t mean we have everything figured out.
  48. it’s complicated
    What Happened When My Friend and I Confronted the Guy Who Was Texting Us BothWe showed up together at the bar where he was supposed to meet one of us, and things got … weird.
  49. it’s complicated
    The Awkwardness of Rekindling a Relationship From Opposite Sides of the CountryWe’d been long-distance the whole time we were dating, but I didn’t see all those miles as an issue until we tried to get back together.
  50. it’s complicated
    Being in My First Adult Relationship Meant Learning How to FightIt took me a while figure out that conflict wasn’t the sign of an impending breakup.
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