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It’s Complicated
it’s complicated
Mar. 13, 2018
The Awkwardness of Rekindling a Relationship From Opposite Sides of the Country
We’d been long-distance the whole time we were dating, but I didn’t see all those miles as an issue until we tried to get back together.
By
Luisa Rollenhagen
it’s complicated
Mar. 8, 2018
Being in My First Adult Relationship Meant Learning How to Fight
It took me a while figure out that conflict wasn’t the sign of an impending breakup.
By
Katie Heaney
it’s complicated
Mar. 6, 2018
My Ex’s Old Stuff Saved Me After Our Breakup
Psychologists call them “transitional objects” — items that carry us through times of upheaval.
By
Devon Murphy
it’s complicated
Mar. 1, 2018
Relearning How to Date After My Double Mastectomy
The threat of cancer made me reconsider what I wanted in a partner, but it also left me scared of having to open up to one.
By
Erika Stallings
it’s complicated
Feb. 27, 2018
In Defense of Going to Bed Angry
How I learned to ignore an old standby of relationship advice.
By
Jaya Saxena
it’s complicated
Feb. 22, 2018
Becoming a Digital Nomad Meant Changing My Definition of ‘Boyfriend’
Commitment is tough when you’re not tied to any one place.
By
Suzannah Weiss
it’s complicated
Feb. 20, 2018
Breaking Up With the Boyfriend Who Got Me Through Cancer
Besides my immediate family, he’s the only person who’s seen the worst of me and loved me anyway.
By
Deanna Pai
it’s complicated
Feb. 15, 2018
The Silly Tattoo That Got Me Through My Worst Breakup
New ink, old me.
By
Katherine Clover
it’s complicated
Feb. 13, 2018
My Quest to Understand Why Bumble Is Full of Guys With Fish Photos
An investigation into the fishermen of dating apps.
By
Gina Ryder
ask a boss
Feb. 12, 2018
All Your Questions About Dating a Co-worker, Answered
What do you do if you think your boss is having an affair with a co-worker? Can you ask an old date for a referral?
By
Alison Green
it’s complicated
Feb. 8, 2018
The Men I’m Most Attracted to Are the Ones Who Ease My Stutter
My exes have almost nothing in common, except for their ability to influence how I speak.
By
Rachel Hoge
it’s complicated
Feb. 6, 2018
Keeping the Romance Alive Is Tough When You Love Early Bedtimes
I’m the younger one in my relationship, but I have the sleep cycle of someone much, much older.
By
Diane Stopyra
it’s complicated
Feb. 1, 2018
Long Distance Didn’t Break Us Up, But Moving in Together Almost Did
Living far apart was hard. Learning to merge our lives together was even harder.
By
Miriam Annenberg
it’s complicated
Jan. 30, 2018
My Night at a Dirty-Talk Class
An hour at a striptease dance studio, saying some very raunchy things to strangers.
By
Lisa Ryan
it’s complicated
Jan. 25, 2018
Does My Ex Deserve a Second Chance, or Is It Just Nostalgia?
Maybe all the good memories were a sign that we should try again. Then again, maybe those moments weren’t as good as I remembered.
By
Danielle Sepulveres
it’s complicated
Jan. 23, 2018
Having Sex in a Crawl Space Showed Me I’m Not As Chill As I Thought
A turning point in my dating life: the moment I realized I like guys who have actual bedrooms.
By
Maria Del Russo
it’s complicated
Jan. 18, 2018
When Breaking Up With a Dad Means Breaking Up With His Kid, Too
I’ve gotten over my ex, but I don’t know that I’ll ever stop missing his son.
By
Caroline Cox
it’s complicated
Jan. 16, 2018
Breaking My Foot Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to My Sex Life
“Come over and sign my cast” is a surprisingly effective pickup line.
By
Jennifer Swann
it’s complicated
Jan. 11, 2018
The Struggle of Dating an Animal Lover When You Can’t Stand Pets
I tried the fake-it-til-you-make-it approach, until my boyfriend’s cat blew my cover.
By
Alexia LaFata
it’s complicated
Jan. 9, 2018
The Worst Part of Dating an Older Guy Is His Texting Habits
The difference in how we use our phones makes a small age gap feel much wider.
By
Ashley Fetters
it’s complicated
Jan. 4, 2018
Dating With ADHD Means Constantly Convincing Men I’m Paying Attention
It’s not you, it’s my brain chemistry.
By
Terena Bell
it’s complicated
Jan. 2, 2018
What Happened When I Got All of My Dating Advice From My Evangelical Church
I thought God was intervening to save my love life.
By
Dani Fankhauser
it’s complicated
Dec. 26, 2017
Dating Without Drinking Is Lonely, Awkward, and Sometimes Infuriating
I’m fine with my decision to stay sober. Most of the guys I meet seem to feel differently.
By
Rainesford Stauffer
it’s complicated
Dec. 19, 2017
Learning to Live With a Partner Who Never Says ‘I Love You’
I’m a words person. He’s … not.
By
Kate Morgan
it’s complicated
Dec. 12, 2017
All the Things I Worry About As My Non-Binary Partner Prepares to Give Birth
Attending birthing classes with my partner made me realize the people delivering our baby had no idea how to handle our needs.
By
Tori Truscheit
it’s complicated
Dec. 5, 2017
My Life As a Perpetual 7th Wheel to All My Couple Friends
It’s lonely realizing that they don’t know how to relate to my singleness.
By
Allie Volpe
it’s complicated
Nov. 30, 2017
An English Husband, a Culture Clash, and Advice for Meghan Markle
From an American expat who’s been there.
By
Jessica Pan
it’s complicated
Nov. 28, 2017
Being a Vegan With Ham-Loving In-laws Is Harder Than It Sounds
My husband’s parents live in Spain, where ham is part of the culture — so when I turn it down, they take it as a symbol of bigger issues.
By
Spenser de la Vega
it’s complicated
Nov. 21, 2017
Going Out With My High-School Crush Reignited All My Old Insecurities
I felt like a teenager again — but not in a good way.
By
Katie Fustich
it’s complicated
Nov. 14, 2017
Why I Bring All My Baggage on My First Dates
Opening up about divorce, trauma, and mental illness with men I’ve just met.
By
Steph Montgomery
it’s complicated
Sept. 1, 2017
How to Get Through a Breakup Without Losing Friends
The sweet spot between pushing people away and demanding too much of them.
By
Susie Neilson
it’s complicated
Sept. 1, 2017
Me, You, and the Fantasy I Projected Onto You
You think a crisis romance is the start of your new life, but really it’s the end of the old.
By
Heather Chaplin
both sides of a breakup
Aug. 31, 2017
Both Sides of a Breakup: Her Heart Wasn’t in New York
Two exes explain why it ended.
By
the Cut
it’s complicated
Aug. 31, 2017
When Every Relationship Is an Accidental Love Triangle
My fiancé died 15 years ago. But he’s still forever, and never, with me.
By
Shannon Leone Fowler
it’s complicated
Aug. 30, 2017
Why Did Lake Bell Make a Defense-of-Marriage Movie?
Despite its anti-rom-com trappings,
I Do … Until I Don’t
is profoundly sentimental about the idea of long-term commitment.
By
Anna Silman
it’s complicated
Aug. 30, 2017
When You Have Anxiety and Your Partner Doesn’t
It can be a relationship death knell. (But it doesn’t have to be.)
By
Katie Heaney
it’s complicated
Aug. 29, 2017
Two Hours of Touching Strange Men at Tantra Speed Dating
Trying out the latest trend in “mindful dating.”
By
Lisa Ryan
it’s complicated
Aug. 28, 2017
Why Dating in Your 20s Is Terrible
According to a social scientist studying generational differences.
By
Jean Twenge
it’s complicated
Aug. 28, 2017
Sword Guys Are a Thing and I’ve Had Sex With All of Them
I’ve determined a hierarchy of sword guys.
By
Hana Michels
it’s complicated
Mar. 23, 2017
25 Women on Being Famous
Zadie Smith, Adele, J.K. Rowling, and more on what it’s really like in the spotlight.
By
Julie Ma
it’s complicated
Dec. 27, 2016
The Pros and Cons of Marrying a Robot
No relationship is perfect.
By
Lisa Ryan
first person
July 6, 2016
Physical and Emotional Healing in the Hands of a Younger Man
Was it a crush I felt toward my much-younger physical therapist, or maternal instinct?
By
Susan Shapiro
it’s complicated
Apr. 8, 2016
The Summer I Learned I Wasn’t the Exception
I wanted to be
that girl
, the impossible one, Gertrude Stein but also beautiful.
By
Jenny Zhang
it’s complicated
Apr. 8, 2016
My Wife Is Breast-feeding Both of Our Babies
A five-month check-in on the wives who gave birth four days apart.
As told to
Alexa Tsoulis-Reay
it’s complicated
Apr. 8, 2016
5 Stories of Finding Love While Waiting in Line
From huddling in the rain outside the Whitney Biennial to a surprise blind date at Shake Shack.
By
Trupti Rami
both sides of a breakup
Apr. 7, 2016
Both Sides of a Breakup: She Moved in But Didn’t Want to Get Serious
Now he’s photographing her wedding.
As told to
Alexa Tsoulis-Reay
advice
Apr. 7, 2016
How to Politely Have an Amazing Threesome
Take care of the following and you’ve got very little to be afraid of.
By
Amy Rose Spiegel
it’s complicated
Apr. 6, 2016
See Classic ’80s and ’90s Personals Ads From
New York
Magazine
So many self-described Richard Gere look-alikes.
By
Aude White
it’s complicated
Apr. 6, 2016
The Moment When We Stopped Being Just Friends
And all my feelings fell off the shelf.
By
Sara Jaffe
it’s complicated
Apr. 6, 2016
What It’s Like When Your Brother Is Your Wife’s Sperm Donor
Seven years later, we’re still figuring it out.
As told to
Alexa Tsoulis-Reay
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