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J.p. Brammer

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    ‘I’m Ashamed of Who I Used to Be’While you can’t change the past, you do have a good deal of agency in how you frame it and tell your own story.
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    ‘Am I Unlovable?’Romantic love isn’t the only or most important kind. If you have some love in your life, meet it happily and let it be enough for a while.
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    ‘Am I Too Sensitive?’You won’t always have control over feelings that bubble up. What you do have control over is whether or not you acknowledge them.
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    ‘Help! I’m Annoying’Humanity is an enormous group project, and we’re all unwilling partners in it. That means we will often be annoyed with one another.
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    ‘I Don’t Know How to Be Single’It’s harmful to let a fear of being disliked govern your existence.
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    ‘How Can I Make Peace With the Life I Have?’It’s okay that you feel unsatisfied right this moment. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It just means you’re a person.
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    ‘Will I Ever Meet My Soul Mate?’I believe in true love. Do I believe in soul mates? No. Absolutely not.
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    ‘I’m Sad Over a Relationship That Never Even Happened’It’s human to get attached to your daydreams. The thing about “almost relationships” is they are 99 percent fantasy.
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    ‘I’m So Jealous of My Hot Friend’We can learn to look at ourselves in such a way that we see someone worthy of love, happiness, and affection.
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    ‘I Have a Good Life. I’m Happy. Why Isn’t That Enough?’You need to strike a balance between fantasy and reality: Someone probably isn’t going to waltz into your life and fix everything for you.
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    ‘Things Could Be Worse for Me, and I Feel Guilty’Happiness can and does happen in a world of hurt. It has to. What other world would it happen in?
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    ‘I Slept With a Woman. Am I Still Gay?’Don’t be afraid you’re committing identity fraud just because you’re not sure which word to use yet.
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    ‘I Want to Be More Latino. Is That a Thing?’We’ve been conditioned to couple lived experience with “authenticity”; there are a set number of things a “real Latinx” must do.
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    ‘Being Single Really, Really Sucks Right Now’I’m lonely. You’re lonely. It’s fine to feel upset about it.
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    ‘I Feel Guilty for Living So Far From Home!’Just like our lives, home is a shifting, changing thing because, well, we carry it with us.