Sex Diaries

New York Magazine’s Sex Diaries series asks anonymous city dwellers to record a week in their sex lives — with comic, tragic, often sexy, and always revealing results. The column, which began in 2007, is the basis of a new docuseries on HBO.

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How I Get Strangers to Talk About Their Sex Lives

To write the Sex Diaries column every week, I stop people on the bus, ask my cashier at CVS, or even beg my next-door neighbors.

The rest of the archive

  1. The 41-Year-Old Discovering That She Likes Dirty TalkThis week’s sex diary.
  2. The Woman Getting the “Ick” From Her DateThis week’s sex diary.
  3. The Fashion Assistant Collecting Orgasms in LondonThis week’s sex diary.
  4. The Woman Matching With the Absolute Worst Men on TinderThis week’s sex diary.
  5. The Social Media Manager Who Makes a Move on Her BossThis week’s sex diary.
  6. The Waiter Wondering If He’ll Have Sex on the Third DateThis week’s sex diary.
  7. The Gallerista Getting an Erotic Massage at the Russian BathhouseThis week’s sex diary.
  8. The 50-Year-Old Reconnecting With Her Summer-Camp CrushThis week’s sex diary.
  9. The Publicist Sleeping With an Irish Guy She Met at the GymThis week’s sex diary.
  10. The Southerner Stumbling Into Her First ThreesomeThis week’s sex diary.
  11. The Queer Librarian Getting Paid for Feet PicsThis week’s sex diary.
  12. The Bisexual Gardener Making Out With a Tattooed ChefThis week’s sex diary.
  13. The Insomniac Tech Worker Juggling 4 WomenThis week’s sex diary.
  14. The TV Writer Seeking Hot Sex While on StrikeThis week’s sex diary.
  15. The Publicist Worried She Chases Men Too MuchThis week’s sex diary.
  16. The Nurse Planning a ‘Sexcation’ in the WildernessThis week’s sex diary.
  17. The Woman in an Open Marriage With a Gay ManThis week’s sex diary.
  18. The Author Sleeping With a Not-Yet-Divorced DadThis week’s sex diary.
  19. The Woman Tracking Her Berlin Sex Buddies in a SpreadsheetThis week’s sex diary.
  20. The Paris-Based Designer Seeing a New Man Every NightThis week’s sex diary.
  21. The Reality-TV Producer Sleeping With a Guitar PlayerThis week’s sex diary.
  22. The Divorced Dad Prepping for His First Sex PartyThis week’s sex diary.
  23. The Married Mom Having Sex on Her Friend’s Bachelorette TripThis week’s sex diary.
  24. The Filmmaker Who Knows This Guy Is Probably Bad NewsThis week’s sex diary.
  25. The Musician Sleeping With a Married WomanThis week’s sex diary.
  26. The Guy Wondering Why He Got Blocked on GrindrThis week’s sex diary.
  27. The 35-Year-Old Dating a Drummer With a Trust FundThis week’s sex diary.
  28. The Woman Hitting on a Hot French Guy From Her Yoga ClassThis week’s sex diary.
  29. The Woman Day Dreaming About the New Couple She Met on FeeldThis week’s sex diary.
  30. The Restaurant Publicist Wondering If Her New Man Is ToxicThis week’s sex diary.
  31. The Producer Who Thinks Secrets Are Okay in a MarriageThis week’s sex diary.
  32. The College Student Who Gets Dumped for a Dance MajorThis week’s “Sex Diary.”
  33. The Tokyo Woman Flying to Milan for a Former Co-workerThis week’s sex diary.
  34. The Creative Director Getting a Little Tired of FeeldThis week’s sex diary.
  35. The 55-Year-Old Scheduling a Week of PlaydatesThis week’s sex diary.
  36. The Content Creator Exploring Her Interest in RopesThis week’s sex diary.
  37. The Woman Who Thinks She Has ‘Sexsomnia’This week’s sex diary.
  38. The Married Dermatologist Having a Threesome in ConnecticutThis week’s sex diary.
  39. The Freelancer Hoping She Can Satisfy Her Younger GirlfriendThis week’s sex diary.
  40. Looking Back on Eight Years of Sex DiariesOn this week’s episode of the Cut’s podcast, Alyssa Shelasky talks about turning her popular column into an HBO docuseries.
  41. The Publicist Wondering Who’s Calling His Boyfriend at NightThis week’s sex diary.
  42. I Read All 707 New York Sex DiariesThis is what I learned.
  43. How I Get Strangers to Talk About Their Sex LivesTo write the Sex Diaries column every week, I stop people on the bus, ask my cashier at CVS, or even beg my next-door neighbors.
  44. The 69 Best Sex DiariesThese are the diaries that blew up our group texts, inspired an internet conspiracy or two, and still make us blush all these years later.
  45. HBO’s ‘Sex Diaries’ Series Drops FridayInspired by New York Magazine’s weekly column, the four-part series will profile eight New Yorkers navigating sex and dating.
  46. The Chef Kissing Her Ex Behind Her Boyfriend’s BackThis week’s sex diary.
  47. The Vermont Woman Who Blows Off Work for a Tinder DateThis week’s sex diary.
  48. The Divorced Lawyer Who Loves Getting Ready for DatesThis week’s sex diary.
  49. The Wine-Shop Worker Checking Out the Hot Delivery GuyThis week’s sex diary.
  50. The Queens Woman Having Passionate Breakup SexThis week’s sex diary.
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